Reposition Yourself /Re Brand Yourself
Everyone knows what junk is – the stuff you don’t want, don’t need, and you’re always planning to clear out or tidy up. It may be a pile of letters, old bills, the bulging wardrobe where everything is squashed and unwearable, the desk piled high, the drawers that won’t open. It’s also the man who rings on Tuesday but doesn’t turn up until midnight on Saturday (drunk), the “whining” friend , the mother who makes you feel guilty like a 12 year old, and that social drinking that has become an all year party.
Physical junk and emotional junk are
closely linked and the first is often an indicator of the second. You may tell
yourself you are a modern person, not a slave
to conventional ideas. You’re careless in your dressing? So what – you
are what you are, not what you wear! Your house is in a mess? Of course it is –
you have more important things to do than housework. That mess is a message to
you – and a sign to the world – that your control is slipping. Your balance has
gone and your self – esteem is in need of a good overhaul.
Debunking your life – taking stock of the mess in every area and at every level – is a healthy and self – affirming step. Clearing up our physical clutter is an excellent place to start the process. Your physical environment often reflects and has a direct impact on your mental and emotional state. According to psychologists, from an early age we try to make sense of the world or to make it conform to what we want it to be safe and predictable.
If we can manage our physical clutter, we are demonstrating
to ourselves that we are able to cope, that our lives are manageable and under
our control. Very often, just bringing
physical order to our lives creates
feelings of mental and emotional
stability. We show that we are in command, so we behave as if we are.
A life is a mess is a person in a
mess and the usual response to that is pity, impatience and even contempt. Ask
yourself how people regard you and respond
to you. If you want respect and
cooperation and to be treated as an adult, then don’t let your mess get out of
hand. It’s that simple – and it’s that true.
Some of us like to point to our mess as a sign of creativity or being special. We even
make a virtue of it. See, we seem to say, we’re too wonderful to be bogged
down by simple efficiency and competence. We’re just kidding
ourselves. The people who enter our messy world just see a loser who can’t even
manage a desk/ flat/ or back seat of a car…. Good organization doesn’t
happen naturally. You have to learn how to do it, then put in lots of
The wrong way to tackle mess is to
spend hours cleaning it up, exhausting yourself and feeling resentful. The trick is routine –
once the main mess is under control, a
simple daily and weekly list of chores can keep everything under control.
Deliberately limit and set aside clean – up time. When the time is up just
stop. The work that was left just had to wait till the next clean – up time.
Everyone finds their own system for
dealing with clutter some people invite friends for dinner, forcing themselves
to clear up beforehand.
It is no coincidence that mess often
starts to pile up during times of personal
difficulty. Those awful periods of self – doubt, or finding yourself at
a painful and complex point in your relationship or job, can make you feel that
you can’t cope. Although a good clear
out will help, emotional mess needs its own kind of spring cleaning. At times
it may be necessary to take a complete audit of your life – your relationships, career, home life and inner
Every area can get bogged down with
junk of some kind and they all have the same effect as the disorderly
kitchen cupboards – they make us feel
depressed and anxious. Emotional cobwebs are just as real as physical ones – de
junk your life and you’ll be a different YOU!